Ring ring . . .

Potential Buyer (PB): Hello

Cold Caller (CC): Is this Peter Miller?

PB: Yes, who is this?

CC: Hi, this Amy of XYZ Company. How are you?

PB: OK, what is this about?

CC: Do you want to know about a totally safe way of increasing your net worth by 200% in less than 10 years? We have an absolutely unique product you certainly have never heard of. I am sure you must be interested in that. Here is how it works . . .

Do you ever get calls like this? If they annoy you at least half as much as they annoy us, then you have a good idea of what we are talking about.

A few days ago, I found an online forum with a list of possible responses that could help you get rid of irritating callers in no time. Here are some of our favorites:

If they start out with, "How are you today?" say, "Why do you want to know?" Alternatively, you can tell them, "I'm so glad you asked, because no one these days seems to care, and I have all these problems. My arthritis is acting up, etc." When they try to get to the sell, just keep talking about your problems.

Cry out in surprise, "Amy, IS that you? Oh my God, Amy, how have you been?" Hopefully this will give Amy a few brief moments of terror as she tries to figure out where the heck she could know you from.

Tell them to talk VERY SLOWLY, because you want to write EVERY WORD DOWN.

If a female telemarketer calls your boyfriend's house ask her just why she's calling, act like you can "see right through this stupid cover-up!" and harass her for "secretly seeing" your boyfriend. Don't stop until she hangs up, or threatens to report you.

What is it that annoys us so much about these calls?

Lack of respect: Most cold callers (CCs) dont seem to care whether we are even ready to talk or at least listen! to someone. Perhaps they believe that the fact that we picked up the phone gives them the right to make use of our time.

Most CCs dont seem to care about what we really want: Most CCs (and many sales people, for that matter) believe that everybody should want their wonderful product and therefore pitch without hesitation.

Its about what the CC wants: Apparently, such CCs have only one thing in mind: a quick sale. That means the call is important mostly because they can benefit from it, even though they may also think that the potential buyer would possibly benefit.

We dont like being pressured: Pressure creates resistance. Even if the offered product might be something that we need, we tend to resist simply because most of us hate to be pressured.

Does any of that sound familiar to you? Have you ever wondered why many companies still use this sales method? The answer is simple: it gives them results. How?

Traditional cold calling is a numbers game, which could work as follows:

- Make 100 cold calls.

- Get 10 people to show some interest.

- Get one or two of them to buy (the lucky strikes!).

Yes, despite all the negative feelings triggered by these calls, there will always be people who listen and might even end up buying. These buyers couldve been looking for such a product and the cold call was simply a timely, convenient way to get it. So if you make enough calls, youll get some results that might make it worthwhile to continue with this approach.

What does it do to the CCs? Apparently, they must have a very strong self-esteem if they can keep using this approach despite being rejected 95 to 99 times out of 100.

What does it to the image of such companies? Needless to say, you cant build a high-quality image by using this cold-call method.

Can cold calls be made in such a way that fully respects the person being called and does not create any pressure? Can you imagine talking to a sales person who doesnt want to bully you into doing things his way as quickly as possible?

The Stop Selling! approach consists of a unique mindset combined with certain skills that helps any sales person, including cold callers, quickly create and maintain trusted relationships. This approach incorporates the realization that the sellers process, even when it leads to good results, is actually the limitation of even greater success.

Summary: Traditional cold calling is a numbers game and annoys most recipients of such calls. The Stop Selling! approach helps sales people quickly create a trusting relationship with prospects and customers. This is achieved through a very specific buyer-friendly mindset and skills that support this mindset.